You trust everyone but you. That’s the real problem.
The Perspective Shift #23: Trust
This past weekend we were in Arizona for my little brother’s wedding. It was a quick trip. One of those whirlwind weekends where your bag is still half-packed on the floor when it’s time to leave again.
On the drive home from the airport, it started absolutely dumping rain.
Grayson was driving, obviously. (Anyone else hate driving? Same.) And I had this quiet moment of relief like, thank God he’s behind the wheel. I trust him.
Not just because he’s always been a safe driver (though he has), but because I just did. There was no guarantee. No signed contract that just because he’s gotten us home safely in the past, he always will.
But even with the roads slick and visibility low, I wasn’t tense. I wasn’t second-guessing. I just… trusted.
That got me thinking…
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT
In the past 24 hours alone, how many things have you trusted without knowing for sure how they’d turn out?
Here’s just a few from my list:
I trusted my alarm to wake me up.
I trusted the car behind me to stop at the red light.
I trusted Charlotte’s daycare to keep her safe.
I trusted Jack not to run off when I let him outside.
I trusted the grocery store would have what I needed.
I trusted the eyebrow waxer (one of the hardest for me tbh).
None of that was guaranteed. And yet, I just trusted.
(HA, that just made me think of… just the other day in group we were trying to define trust without using the word trust and you know what? It’s so hard.)
So what is trust? For me, trust is moving forward without knowing exactly how it’ll turn out.
And the thing is, we already know how to do that. We do it all the time.
So maybe the problem isn’t that you don’t trust yourself. Maybe it’s that you’ve been looking for trust to feel a certain way when really, it often feels wobbly and uncomfortable and brave.
Maybe the work isn’t learning how to trust. Maybe it’s recognizing all the ways you already are.
SOMETHING TO ASK YOURSELF
Where are you having a hard time trusting right now? And what might be different if you did?
→ Would you let go a little?
→ Relax more?
→ Take the next step?
Sometimes the question isn’t “can I trust?” It’s “what becomes possible if I do?”
SOMETHING TO TRY
Pick one area where you’ve been waiting for proof, for permission, or for the perfect conditions and then ask yourself: “What would it look like to trust myself here, just a little?”
Examples from my clients:
Eating breakfast even if they didn’t feel “hungry enough”
→ I trust that my body still needs fuel to function.
Leaving the kitchen after dinner without circling back “just in case”
→ I trust that I’m actually done and I don’t need to double-check.
Going on a walk because it felt good
→ I trust that joyful movement counts, even if it’s not intense.
Skipping a body check in the mirror
→ I trust that how I feel about myself doesn’t need constant validation.
Letting themselves relax on the couch at 2pm without doing “one more thing” first
→ I trust that rest isn’t weakness. I don’t have to earn stillness.
Eating dessert without budgeting the rest of the day around it
→ I trust that one food choice doesn’t cancel out everything else.
Saying “I’m full” and stopping, even if their plate wasn’t clean
→ I trust that I can listen to my body, not just the rules I was taught.
Each of these choices might seem small. But they’re not. They’re quiet declarations. Subtle shifts. Brave moments of trust that say: “I don’t need to have it all figured out to take the next step.”
Why does trust matter?
Because without it, everything becomes a battle.
✔️ Every food decision becomes a negotiation.
✔️ Every rest day feels like a failure.
✔️ Every body change becomes a crisis.
✔️ Every choice requires proof, certainty, control.
Without trust, you’re constantly bracing for impact. Micromanaging your way through life. Waiting for the other shoe to drop.
But with trust?
There’s room to breathe. Room to choose without spiraling. Room to live without needing to overthink every move.
Trust is what turns peace from a concept into a feeling.It’s what lets you stop trying so hard to do it “right” and just… be in your life.
That’s why it matters.
xx,
Ry